Have you ever been in a situation where you couldn’t figure out why others couldn’t understand you, even when you explained in the simplest terms possible?
Have you wondered why the people around you didn’t see things the way you did?
Have you ever wondered why it seems you are operating on another ‘level’ compared to your colleagues or co-workers?
I certainly have, at various times in my life.
And it’s not that I am a genius (I know I’m smart), but I’ve had to grapple with the fact that once you achieve a certain competence in an area, you begin to get irritated that people don’t operate at your level.
Sometimes, this may lead to a real disconnect, lack of empathy and poor leadership. I’m writing this article to you, yes you! Because you are a leader, no matter how lowly you regard your position in life.
This is not to say you have to accept mediocrity but true leadership is understanding that not everyone will see things the way you do, and empathically lead them towards what you want them to see.
In short, and frustratingly so, people only hear and begin to understand when you get tired of hammering on a ‘subject’
Also, differing perspectives are also great, so you have to be open to debate and pushback.
Besides, as a leader, your job is not to be always right but to make the best decisions per time.
So next time you get frustrated like me, remember that the true test of leadership isn’t about how smart you are, but how well you can get people to see why you see things the way you do, why your thought process will bring the best results and why you’re open to changing your stance if someone presents a superior argument.
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I can really relate to this letter, as I've had to learn to make people see why they should do things instead of telling them what to do.